I'm not a fan of teen dating
okay before you say anything, 1) yes I am in a relationship, and have been in the same one for a while. And 2) it used to drive me nuts when my mom would say this while I am still dating someone, but she has a point.
Now lets move on to what I mean by teen dating. You will either fall into one of two categories. On one extreme you have worldly teen dating (WTD) and then you have purposeful dating (PD).
WTD is what you see on TV and social media. It's the "what can I get from you/ what will you give me" mindset. These relationships are the "happy 1 week I love you so much bae". *gag me with a spoon*. I can say that these relationships are often meaningless and leave you heartbroken. I do not know from experience, but I see it way too often. This type of relationship that is formed is really a hazard, something that as Christian's, and just as people,we should flee from. Proverbs 4:23 tells us to guard our hearts. It really is true that what you put into your mind, comes out in words and actions, there's no hiding it. WTD is all around you, and something that shouldn't be taken lightly. I believe it is a serious issue, a trap that young girls and guys get themselves into way too often.
PD is different. It has a purpose. It's really, really, really difficult. It does not mean that the person I am dating now will 100% be who I marry (I understand that sometimes God has different plans), but you should look at potential relationships as if you wanted to be with that same person for the rest of your life. Purposeful dating is more than what you're used to seeing. It involves a lot of prayer. It involves "boundaries". It involves Jesus. In order to have a God-honoring, God-fearing relationship, you have to put God at well, the center. He has to be the center and your relationship has to be intentional. Your lines or boundaries won't necessarily be the worlds definition of "goals". But if it helps you keep a pure heart, mind, and conversations, it's worth it.
I know too many young girls who think that once they get a boyfriend everything will just be grand! But at the age of 14, a boy can't and won't be the answer to all of your problems. You also can't depend on someone else for happiness. If you're upset, the world will tell you to have "your guy" make it all better, but that's not how it works. Guy's can only give you a temporary feeling of 'okay-ness'. No more than your best girl friend can, they're both humans. You can't let them be your god. Only the one true Yahweh God will provide comfort and healing to the sick hurting or distressed.
I stated in the title that I am not a fan of teen dating. Romance and flowers are cute and sweet, but I am not okay with broken hearts at such a young age. I am not okay with girls thinking their worth comes from a male. I am not okay with young girls putting effort into abusive relationships, because guys don't know how to respect a girl. I am not okay with the fact that it feels like everyone around me thinks its okay to have sex with someone you are not married to. I am not okay with a guy being hateful to a girl after she decides not to be with him. I am not okay with either girls or guys feeling entitled to anything in a relationship. Lastly, I am not okay with the divorce practice that is seen in the young relationships. "I don't like you anymore, time to move on" I'm not okay with that.
Dear girl reading this. your music, shows, and websites tell you that its okay to give your heart away. Desiring these things are not wrong; but you do not have to give your heart away to the first guy that crosses your path. The world will not run out of Jesus-loving, momma-respecting. door-holding, dinner-buying, nice guys. You do not need to settle. Be patient.
Check out these videos: Jamie Grace's words of wisdom Matt Chandler, listen to this !!
You're loved!!
HG <><
Now lets move on to what I mean by teen dating. You will either fall into one of two categories. On one extreme you have worldly teen dating (WTD) and then you have purposeful dating (PD).
WTD is what you see on TV and social media. It's the "what can I get from you/ what will you give me" mindset. These relationships are the "happy 1 week I love you so much bae". *gag me with a spoon*. I can say that these relationships are often meaningless and leave you heartbroken. I do not know from experience, but I see it way too often. This type of relationship that is formed is really a hazard, something that as Christian's, and just as people,we should flee from. Proverbs 4:23 tells us to guard our hearts. It really is true that what you put into your mind, comes out in words and actions, there's no hiding it. WTD is all around you, and something that shouldn't be taken lightly. I believe it is a serious issue, a trap that young girls and guys get themselves into way too often.
PD is different. It has a purpose. It's really, really, really difficult. It does not mean that the person I am dating now will 100% be who I marry (I understand that sometimes God has different plans), but you should look at potential relationships as if you wanted to be with that same person for the rest of your life. Purposeful dating is more than what you're used to seeing. It involves a lot of prayer. It involves "boundaries". It involves Jesus. In order to have a God-honoring, God-fearing relationship, you have to put God at well, the center. He has to be the center and your relationship has to be intentional. Your lines or boundaries won't necessarily be the worlds definition of "goals". But if it helps you keep a pure heart, mind, and conversations, it's worth it.
I know too many young girls who think that once they get a boyfriend everything will just be grand! But at the age of 14, a boy can't and won't be the answer to all of your problems. You also can't depend on someone else for happiness. If you're upset, the world will tell you to have "your guy" make it all better, but that's not how it works. Guy's can only give you a temporary feeling of 'okay-ness'. No more than your best girl friend can, they're both humans. You can't let them be your god. Only the one true Yahweh God will provide comfort and healing to the sick hurting or distressed.
I stated in the title that I am not a fan of teen dating. Romance and flowers are cute and sweet, but I am not okay with broken hearts at such a young age. I am not okay with girls thinking their worth comes from a male. I am not okay with young girls putting effort into abusive relationships, because guys don't know how to respect a girl. I am not okay with the fact that it feels like everyone around me thinks its okay to have sex with someone you are not married to. I am not okay with a guy being hateful to a girl after she decides not to be with him. I am not okay with either girls or guys feeling entitled to anything in a relationship. Lastly, I am not okay with the divorce practice that is seen in the young relationships. "I don't like you anymore, time to move on" I'm not okay with that.
Dear girl reading this. your music, shows, and websites tell you that its okay to give your heart away. Desiring these things are not wrong; but you do not have to give your heart away to the first guy that crosses your path. The world will not run out of Jesus-loving, momma-respecting. door-holding, dinner-buying, nice guys. You do not need to settle. Be patient.
Check out these videos: Jamie Grace's words of wisdom Matt Chandler, listen to this !!
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| I am so very thankful for your kindness, patience, and love for Jesus. |
You're loved!!
HG <><
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